No. Modern women hate this breed of men, says Tan Wen Hui.
Did you know that immatured men tend to be egoistic, too?
The man in question is a white-collared executive in his mid-30s. He is a neat freak who draws an annual salary of at least 60, 000, drives a classic Bentley and has a bunch of well-behaved friends who enjoy going out on late night food hunts. By virtue he is also well-mannered women enjoy his company.
Then again, Mr X-Factor is not without his mother. Tied to his mother’s apron strings since birth, he is unable to stand firm on his ground and on most occasions, wants his way. He also talks incessantly about the attributes of his mother to either his significant other, or potential girlfriend, hinting to the woman to be somewhat like his mother. Or else, he would search for a partner who shares his mother’s traits. Boy oh boy you are a “Mommy’s Boy”.
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Often, such men live out their mother’s every wish and chances are that he would not make decisions with his significant other without his mother’s approval.
To make matters worse, if his mother happens to be the traditional matriarch who rules the roost, his significant other is bound to be mashed in a cock and bull-fight with mother hen. In addition to that, he will not want to be involved in any domestic quarrels between his mother and significant other. Why?
A Mommy’s Boy will always take sides with his mother – even if she is in the wrong. No wonder modern women despise such men. Singapore women who are highly educated and self-sufficient shun such men for being henpecked. As a matter of fact, most Singapore women expect their men to be independent, self-sufficient and reliant. Not boys.
So, boy, being independent is part and parcel of growing up. Otherwise your significant other would choose to dump you for a celibate life.
Embarrassing Act: Pampered young princes are typically spoilt by their mothers, maids-in-waiting are told to offer them a hand even during conscription. Photo Credits: STOMP
If that is not enough to deter you, then consider this: Would you want your male friends to label and mock you as “Mommy’s Boy”? Then its time you sit your mother down on the couch and reason out with her on the issues concerning Your Adulthood, and in an adult manner.
This brings to the point of Singapore’s declining birth rate. While it seems that the Government enjoys firing their missiles at single women who refuse to settle down and start a family, single men, on the other hand, are left out of the big picture. Whether intentional or not, single men – particularly Mommy’s Boys – should also be aware of the consequences their singleton places on the nation.
And while it seems the norm for most Singapore men to be living with their parents due to entrenched social norms and disincentives for singles to purchase public housing, it is not for men to be over reliant on their mothers. Because truth is, no woman would want to be in an intimate relationship with a man who is over reliant on his mother.
Moreover, as tradition prescribes, a man should learn from his precursors, ideally both father and uncle, how to be self-sufficient and reliant. And in the process of finding his way through society, he should learn from life experiences to be a better man.
Reiterating on the issue of tradition, evolution is also no excuse for men to be the “weaker gender” and Singapore men are well aware of the fact that the Government has been tolerant with their ways till they are eligible for conscription.
In conclusion, the question to you men is: Do you want to be either “Mommy’s Boy”, or a man made of iron and steel like…Tony Starks? If it is the latter, do something to grow out of that moniker.
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Posted on September 14, 2011
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